About Me
“How did I get here, and how did I end up finally getting out?”
For 50 years, I existed in a toxic relationship with a man who exhibited narcissistic personality disorder. From college dating to being in business together, then into marriage and divorce, we played the role of “the perfect couple”—for the optics, for the family. But behind the façade of luxury – private jet travel, a beautiful home, Ritz Carlton/Four Seasons, luxury vehicles, and beach property – my life was a lie.
I endured years of mental, emotional, and physical abuse at the hands of my boyfriend, eventual husband, and finally my ex. I lived as the person I was expected to be, playing a role to maintain peace. In essence, I was a Super Empath, absorbing chaos and sacrificing my own self to nurture others—a trait that was manipulated and exploited by an extreme narcissist.
From Survivor to Thriver
I lived a life filled with distorted love, lies, and misplaced loyalty—a horrible example for my children. But eventually, I reached a breaking point: a psychological revolution, followed by a painful evolution that uncovered the person I had hidden for so long. I left.
Now, I am a survivor becoming a thriver. I refuse to live a lie any longer.
But the journey isn’t simple, and the question remains: Will I ever truly be free of this man’s grip on my life?
Who I Am
On my resume, I’m many things:
I’m also an author of children’s books, a deep passion and legacy I treasure.
But not on paper, I am someone who has endured and survived immense emotional pain. This blog is a space where I can finally reflect, write, and begin to uncover my true self.
Why I Write
This blog series is as much for me as it is for you. It’s a cathartic narrative to help me process, heal, and discover who I truly am.
I’m fortunate that this journey didn’t cost me my relationships with my children or extended family—but now, it’s about reclaiming me. My hope is that my story will speak to anyone who has endured the empty chaos of a toxic relationship, and together, we can begin to uncover the strength to thrive.